Time is a fascinating subject, complex and simple at the same time. I wanted to talk about it because lately at the end of a day I thought that time goes by fast. My reflections led me to want to do more in my day, don't lose your time, don't waste it. Especially since we don't really know how long we have left, you and me the same.
So I told myself that as I need to accelerate my tempo so to fill my days. But there is a paradox. Since my diagnosis the message I perceive from my readings or my conversations is: Take your time, enjoy the moment, slow down and embrace life.
In addition, some studies show that stress can promote the development of cancer so the goal is to reduce stress, in other words slow the pace of life.
But there is another paradox, the slow pace can reduce stress and impact on the physical but at the same time it can increase my mental stress because I did not do everytthing I wanted. I exaggerate a little to illustrate my state of mind ... An internal conflict that sometimes I have between wanting to do a lot and wanting to slow down and enjoy the moment.
Note: The basic assumption is that you can not enjoy the present moment by having a life at full speed. It would be like trying to smell a flower on the side of the road while driving at 100km / h.
I hear you telling me it's about compromises and choices. That's life: a series of choices.
I hope that everyone adheres to this idea that everything in life is a matter of choice (read Stephen Covey to be convinced). There is great freedom in being able to choose and it is also a heavy responsibility sometimes. So much so that some will deny their responsability by blaming genetics or external factors. Example: after an angry outburst someone would say sorry it's not my fault I was born like thiss or sorry sweetheart but my boss asks me so many things that I could not leave the office before. Wrong, these people must accept that they have chosen to throw a tantrum or not to leave the office earlier. The reasons for their choices may be valid or not but the fact remains that it is a choice they made.
Let us return to our subject of time and choices to make. I'm curious by nature so I want to touch a lot. I want to do yoga, judo, practice guitar, listen to music proposed by our club. I also want to be a good husband and a good father, so I want to spend time with my wife fully concentrate on her needs and I want to play with my children and focus completely on their needs. I also want to start a business and be proud of it and I want my father-in-law to be proud of the support he gives me in this venture.
All these things do not easily fit into an agenda that is not open from 6:00 in the morning to 23:00 at night.
Therefore I need to make choices and I do. I take my responsibility for these choices, but not always easyly. There are days like the one that triggered the text where I question myself. Did I do enough? At this moment, I am reminded of my friend Sylvain who once told me: Everyday, Martin, you do your best and you can not demand more of yourself. God himself does not ask more than that.
So, what is time for you, does it go quickly or slowly. Do you enjoy time passing by, the present?
Santé!
